Traumatization by pedosexual activities

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Traumatization by pedosexual activities

Příspěvekod Plyšáček » 8.11.2016 18:27:00

Traumatization by pedosexual activities
from the perspective of children sexology



The topic is extremely interesting, but also controversial, delicate and extremely demanding. If someone starts its description, he should have an excellent knowledge of sociology as well as the issue of sexual abuse (CSA) and children sexuality. Especially I will try to make a detailed classification of types (categories) of traumatization. The topic will also mention the differences in the ways of CSA that depend not only on the social climate, but mainly on the psychosexual nature of the child, on the approach of the pedosexual, and their relationship. Mention the right use of the term pedosexual which is not a synonym to pedophile. Whilest pedophile is an individual attracted by preteen children, pedosexual is every adult practising sexual activities with children. See more in the New terminology (till now in Czech only).

To start, I will mention two very different cases. Let even dull people will recognize the difference between diverse abuse types. Both fictional cases will include a six years old girl because I want to show the huge difference in the approach to the victim only.

In the first story, this six years old girl is raped every day in a cold underground cellar by brutal majority oriented men. They behave to the victim as to a sex toy, they cum into her mouth, they bind her, burn her body by a hot wax, one by one penetrate into her tattered bleeding vagina. After a satanic service they will let her alone in the darkness, cold and dirtiness.

In the second story, we met a first grade girl fallen in love with their twenty years old pedophilic oriented neighbour. They know each other three years, the men fondly plays often with the girl, she keeps staring at him in amazement. One day they remain at home alone. The girl starts to harass, she sits astride on his lap, giving him tender kisses, briefly touching his crotch. He says her that such behaviour is unacceptable and that people would become angry. She replies that she knows it well but gives a damn and once she wants to marry him. Pedophile surrenders to the given situation and let the girl rubbing of the penis through clothes. After a while they both culminate in orgasm and thanks to each other while hugging. They know this things are their secret and the girl herself thinks about another opportunity to meet alone.

Although the two stories can look completely unrealistic, they reflect real cases. If you do not believe the first, you know little about human cruelty. If you do not believe the second you do not know anything about rich child sexuality. Both the first and the second stories were description of child sexual abuse (CSA) but the relationships between the adult and child and probable future traumatization are greatly different.

The final traumatization of the child primarily depends on the personality of the abuser, on their relationship, on the type of sexual activity and the conditions of the contact. Only secondarily it depends on the approach of the surrounding society.

Having this knowledge, let us try to classify traumatization of a child by CSA into several categories:
1. Immediate traumatization after the CSA action
2. Traumatization caused by subsequent psychical manipulation and silencing
3. Delayed traumatization after understanding of the importance of the action that happened
4. Traumatization caused by absence of the beloved abuser
5. Traumatization caused by change of the relationship with the abuser
6. Secondary traumatization caused by the reaction of other people after the conferral or disclosure
7. Secondary traumatization after becoming familiar with the opinions and attitudes of the society towards pedosexual activities
8. Secondary traumatization after change of personal philosophy of life


This classification is not complete and final. But it suggests the complexity and complicated nature of the phenomenon already after the first reading. Multidimensional nature of the human psyche, the unpredictability of individual life stories and people interactions together with incredible differences in the quality and level of expression of sexuality of the participating persons and the evaluators all interestingly influence or even aggravate each case.

This topic is worth to receive much more attention.

We will discuss the following plush chapters:
Analysis of individual types of child traumatization caused by pedosexual activities
• Factors determining and influencing the level of traumatization of the child caused by pedosexual activities
• Targeted reduction of child traumatization involved in pedosexual activities
• Types of child traumatization depending on the type of pedosexual activity


We hope that Dejan will provide chapters or thematic serials such as Comparative study of approach of human cultures to the child sexuality and to pedosexual activities that should reflect mainly the level of traumatization of children or Proposal for political and paradigmatic changes in society aimed at reducing traumatization of potential CSA victims.

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Traumatization by pedosexual activities

Příspěvekod Plyšáček » 15.12.2016 18:09:35

Types of traumatization by pedosexual activities




In the introduction above I stated the classification of types of traumatization of child by pedosexual activities (PSA) to eight categories. Now we will focus on their detailed description and analysis. Keep always on mind that every child, due to its uniqueness and specific stage of psychosexual development, will experience the same situation differently. Some categories of traumatization will not appear at all, others will appear simultaneously, others after various delay interval, in different intensity, gradation and downturn. It is not excluded that some children will not be negatively affected by PSA at all.


1. Immediate traumatization after the CSA (child sexual abuse) or PSA

Child which is exposed to sexual activity with an adult unprepared, which is abused unwillingly and which did not initiate the sexual contact intentionally, will be probably shocked, scared and frightened by that activity. It will not understand many of the activities and physical reactions of the abuser and of itself. Its feeling can be ambivalent: fear and sense of betrayal vs. pleasant bodily sensations by sexual stimulation.

The child will be strongly traumatized during PSA and mainly immediately after it because it will not be able to integrate the experienced event into its personal life. The strength of the experiences, their novelty, unexpectedness, anomaly, considerable aversion to the abuser or his behaviour and physical symptoms, significantly negative perception of his body, genitals, his smell or sighs, verbal expressions, semen, this all leads quite naturally to a very strong trauma of the abused child. The child tries to handle this type of traumatization by displacement and forgetting. After a certain time lag, everything returns in the form of delayed traumatization (type 3).

This primary type of trauma appears in all children which are not sufficiently trained and psychosexually mature for such a type of activities, which do not expect the situation since they were not conscious initiators, and which are in contact with the person they do not love. After this list of varying factors it is clear that most abused children are traumatized by the abuse itself, by the PSA.


2. Traumatization caused by subsequent psychical manipulation and silencing

Adult person desiring sexual activity with a child usually must use various sorts of tricks and ways to manipulate the child. He bribes the child by diverse ways, he wins over it through gifts, he promises a variety of benefits, but he can also directly threaten and use brutal methods of psychological pressure and manipulation. Child ultimately succumbs to the strong and powerful adult. Often a greater pressure and rougher manipulation is used against the child than would be necessary. Pedophile-oriented individual, thanks to the innate empathy for the child, can convince it to anything more easily, while not pedophile-oriented abusers often use excessively crude methods. For violently oriented adults it is simply due to their sexual motivation system (SMS). This type of trauma overshadows in certain cases the trauma of type 1 and its impact on the victim causes devastating wounds in the child's soul. The child may even experience an anger to itself because of being deceived by the premeditated tricks of the abuser.

Thus, besides the trauma by PSA itself, there is another category of trauma caused by the way of communication of the adult with the child, by the process encoding their experience connected to various intimidating statements, threats and expression of horror situations that could occur after the disclosure. The child can be marked as the culprit of the event, as obscene, lustful and naughty.

The priority concern of the abuser is to prevent the detection of the offense, so he makes an enormous pressure on the child. Particularly primitive and selfish abuser that does not expect any further occasional contacts with the abused child tries to cover all the evidence and encode the child as effectively as possible because he will not have the child under control in the future. Such encoding typically contains statements about the child in the role of culprit, about disrupting its family or about leaving one parent when the secret is gone. Statements about police procedures, about the child's stay in hospitals or orphanages, etc. All such abusive sentences are extremely damaging to the child and cause an additional trauma.


3. Delayed traumatization after understanding of the importance of the action that happened

The abused child usually relaxes shortly after PSA, it may completely displace the whole event and it behaves as if nothing had happened. After a few hours, days or weeks its mental processes begin to recall the trauma, its memories and images emerge on the surface into conscious feelings. The child wakes up in the excitement of nightmares, it is restless, silent, may tremble, be aggressive and self-destructive. Trauma can become the central content of the mind, every feeling is strongly influenced by the new unacceptable experience.

This type of traumatization is probably connected with the contradiction between the new experience and the ideal vision of human relationships and interactions that person can intuitively sense or knows from fairy-tale archetypes and patterns of behaviour by loving parents. Its world of ideals is brutally damaged, trampled, it can now see itself as a negative figure. The child finds itself in a new role - the role of the victim or "accomplices" that it did not know yet. Additionally, due to shame or coding it is forced to keep silent about the true cause of his misery. Pretense, lies and obfuscation appear. It cannot reveal the true reasons and thereby to dissolve the causes. It keeps a heavy burden inside. It is often forced to seek false explanations of its psychological state. Sometimes it is experiencing hell on earth, and this trauma it carries with it until its death.


4. Traumatization caused by absence of the beloved abuser

Human destinies are often unbelievable and relationships between people are sometimes unimaginable. In some cases PSA is welcomed by both the adult and the child and greater trauma does not occur. These are particularly those cases of older "children" who have a relationship with a young adult, cases of children that are unusually psychosexually mature and advanced, which themselves are the initiators of PSA with an adult that they immensely love. For completeness, I want to mention here also these cases.

In most case studies describing the sexual abuse of a child, the child occurs in the role of a victim. It does not know the perpetrator and hates him; or it likes him because it is a relative or a family friend. But it may also happen that the child truly loves the "abuser" and it searches and adores sexual activity with him. It does not automatically mean that the child will not be exposed to certain types of traumatization – especially the secondary traumatization caused by surrounding society can still occur. Until a mutually loving relationship is kept in secret and is fulfilled with nonviolent PSA, everything (from their perspective) is fine.

Trauma of the 4. type occurs after possible detection of their relationship. The child is considered a victim (if it mentions that it liked it, it is beaten into a corner with disgust) and the adult is called an abuser, manipulator and a monster. The child is traumatized not only by the reaction of the society (see other types of traumatization), but also by the absence of its beloved friend and the inability to continue in pleasant sexual practices that offered it regular satisfaction. If the child does not know how to masturbate, it is traumatized not only by the absence of the beloved friend, but also by the disruption of satisfying sex life. Nothing in the world is just black and white. All participants should wisely consider the particular situation and deal with the case taking into account all the circumstances.

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Traumatization by pedosexual activities

Příspěvekod Plyšáček » 10.1.2017 20:41:18

5. Traumatization caused by change of the relationship with the abuser

There are cases when both partners, young girl and man, keep their PSA for long time in harmony and mutual understanding. It happens when a sane pedophile meets a typical pro-pedophilic girl, they fall in love and resonate during their PSA with mutual satisfaction. But the relationship develops, changes after time, first misunderstandings occur, later there is a deeper conflict.

There are several possible causes of the change in the relationship of the two. Let us name the most common ones. Some are similar to those acting also between adult partners. The girl (in our case mostly still a child) can become trivial for the man (generally adult), mutual tenderness may become corny or ordinary after time. Then he looks for a new partner or tries to make the activities harder. While the girl could be satisfied with tender cunnilingus, later attempts of the man to penetrate her vagina or anus may be seen as highly inappropriate and painful. Instead of previous gratitude for an emotional reward in the form of orgasms, now she can experience hateful emotions and express rejection reactions. These in turn lead the abuser to anger and harder dealing with the victim. He can sometimes start to see her as a "sex toy", with which he can do what he wants. He is already satiated by the subtle practices at the level of children sexuality and he seeks harsher relax and adult practices. I believe that such an insensitive approach is characteristic rather for non-pedophile abusers.

Pre-puberty girl can also mention that she is only a kind of a side-relationship, experiment or enjoyment for the pedosexual men, that he has his family, adult girl-friend or many other young girls. She wants her beloved man only for herself, she can plan a wedding, but he upsets her by his promiscuity and superficial relationship, which is only about sex and which must be kept secret from society. Ideals of the young girl disappear, and she suffers from the relationship that was originally perceived as a fairy tale. Such child is severely traumatized by this transformation of the relationship or later understanding of its true character. On one hand, she wants to improve the relationship, on the other she feels the helplessness that arises from her current social status. She experiences the role of exploited and truly abused child.

Rather in puberty girls, the relationship with the pedophile man can change as a result of development. While his interest in the growing and changing girl body decreases and he wants to keep on the child level of sexuality, the girl dreams about full romantic relationship. She wants dating on public, dinners in restaurants, holidays spent together… She wishes advanced forms of sexual activity. But pedophile man is not able to fulfil such desires, either due to his sexual-motivation system (SMS) or because of his social status. Puberty girl starts to be erotically attracted by the awakening virility of her peers, she feels the former partner old and worn, she wants to break free of his influence. Then he is often pathologically jealous that makes the relationship more tense. Traumatization occurs quite naturally.

Younger girls can soon lose their interest in sexual activities. After a sort of "initiation" into the sexual life they either fall into a latent phase of development or they focus on masturbation. Pedosexual man is perceived as a burden and a nuisance partner. If he wants to stay in the love relationship, he must turn into a selfish manipulator and trader.


6. Secondary traumatization caused by the reaction of other people after the conferral or disclosure

Fatal type of traumatization, which occurs in the vast majority of betrayed pedosexual relationships. The child could be traumatized by that time in various ways. The reaction of parents, relatives and acquaintances who are learning about the case, can totally spoil everything. Few people are so vigilant and wise enough not to transfer to the child their own perception of the relationship, society-wide dogmas, hysterical statements and condemning view.

If the child was purely in the role of victim, this will be relieving for her. It is necessary to explain to such a child and repeat that she is not responsible for the situation and that the blame lies with the adult. Often, however, the family cannot even imagine, let alone understand that the child was happy and maintained voluntarily in that relationship. Any evaluations and judgments evoke strong feelings of guilt and shame in her, the child is severely traumatized by all the primitive reactions around and becomes even more closed. It is literally pushed into the role of victim, helpless poor, while "the beast" committed a mad injustice on her. She is afraid to speak, afraid to admit that the relationship was perceived quite positive, she fears that the anger would swoop on her and she would be described as vile, spoiled, pervert or deviant. She is afraid of medical examinations and police investigations.

Hell for the child often begins precisely at this point – by the secondary traumatization. The pedosexual is responsible even for this, however, also ignorant and dull society participates on it. Each case of sexual abuse should be approached with the utmost empathy, sensitivity and discretion. This is not a sensation for the media. The question remains, what these cases are so attractive for readers and how to treat it.


7. Secondary traumatization after becoming familiar with the opinions and attitudes of the society towards pedosexual activities

At present, our society becomes very aggressive at the first mention of pedophilia or any sexual contact with the child. A man who would only suggest pedophile orientation or his understanding to this sexual variation would be driven to executioner's block or lashed by rigorous social pseudo-morality. Abusers, totally wrongly misnamed, for simplification and derogatory overtones of the word, to pedophiles, are seen even worse than murderers in the eyes of a common man.

Unless the child is gradually and sensitively well acquainted with the social view, after several years, in the context of school education and media outreach, she is experiencing secondary trauma of this type. She will probably begin to perceive her past from the perspective of the mainstream view, unlike necessarily perceived before. The pedophile was for her just a kind friend who taught her prohibited but pleasant things. But under the new perception of reality, she is forced into the role of victim, spoiled, stupid and immature kid, which was selfishly and brutally exploited by a mad monster. Massaged by this society-wide witch-hunt she suffers many times more than from the previous premature sexual experience. Even if she is not convinced by such common but biased perception, she will suffer just because she cannot come out and publicly announce her unique experience.


8. Secondary traumatization after change of personal philosophy of life

This type of traumatization is somewhat related to the previous seventh type. Personal life philosophy and view of the world always grow out of the educational impact of humanity as a whole and therefore goes hand in hand with the views of society. In this group we have included such situations when a child perceives sexual activity positively, however, she later takes a different attitude.

At first, she actively searches for sex for its pleasantness. Moreover, in the eyes of pedosexual, she is often the star – she can behave like adults, famously posing in front of the lens, she shows a masterful world-unmatched smuts at the camera... She gets many advantages, superior flow of money or expensive gifts. The soul in the body of the child, however, is very sensitive and intuitive, so if it is not sufficiently beaten by a perverse education, over time, she begins to sense the narrowness, baseness and flatness of such a way of life and its values. These feelings instinctively lead the child out of this labyrinth. There may be a revelation "by mistake", due to disease or unacceptable behaviour, which is essentially calling for help.

The change of the view of life and of the past experience and attitude may not occur until adolescence and personal maturation. A person is getting familiar with various philosophies, ideologies, esoteric doctrines and individual approaches to the human sexuality. She can follow up the ideals of chastity and immaculate virginity, leading to the traumatization in connection with the awareness of her own history. Although she is officially credited victim status, she may perceive her own participation on the past experience, she feels part of her own complicity, based on her children's attitudes and priorities at that time.

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Traumatization by pedosexual activities - Factors

Příspěvekod Plyšáček » 4.4.2017 19:08:45

Factors influencing traumatization of child by pedosexual activities



In this chapter we will discuss several key factors that influence the character, amount and progress of trauma of child caused by pedosexual activities. We will select especially those that significantly determine final subjective perception of the activities by child. Every case of sexual abuse of a child is different, every relationship between an adult and a child is unique. Important are so many variables - age of the two, their family or social relationship, the way they interact, the degree of freedom or manipulation, the kind of pedosexual activities they run together, the time conditions, the family background of the victim, the climate in the society etc. We will try to systematically arrange the factors and describe them briefly.

A. Mutual position in society

One of the key factors that significantly affect the perception of the pedosexual activities by the child is the mutual relationship between the child and the abuser. There is a difference between the case when a beloved adult boy-cousin freely meets with his younger girl-cousin and the case when a three years old boy is sold into sadomasochistically oriented sect. Different will be the perception by a nymphomaniac thirteen years old girl, than by a shy autistic preschool girl, other traumas will both girls feel after cuddling with a nice girlfriend than after a brutal rape in the military trench.

If the pedosexual activities happen in family, the child may feel them less traumatic because she knows the man and has built a deep loving relationship. If she is abused from her baby ages and additionally in a sensitive way, she often perceives the pedosexual activities positively and she herself begs for that. Since she included that in her natural perception of the world, she does not feel any injury or impropriety and trauma from this reason does not occur. But other types of trauma can appear soon.

Different is the case when there is an abuse by a family member in an older age of the child. She does not understand the new experience, it may seem distasteful and unpleasant. The approach of abuser, his character, kind of required activities, the method of pressure on the child and other variables greatly influence on the overall situation. If the child has already an idea about what is incest and how it is viewed by the society, she may be severely traumatized thanks to the sense of betrayal, disgrace and moral rules violation. In addition, if taken as a mere sex toy, she gets into strongly negative mental states.

The most common abuser is father – own or stepfather. Pedophilia there may be, but need not necessarily be diagnosed. Child in these cases often serves only as a replacement sex object. For biological fathers it is incest in the true sense and they both can perceive it at a subconscious level. The overall situation may be affected in a special way by so called Westermarck effect. However, I question its force. During pedosexual activities of stepfather with his adopted child it is also a kind of incest, but not true "kinship incest". Still different will be a situation where there is anal penetration of two year-old son, and different in a situation where a teenage daughter seduces her stepfather and they happily indulge in oral sex.

Quite often is an erotic relationship between teacher and student, either man with girl or woman with boy. Thanks to social roles they are close to each other, spending daily a lot of time together, joint activities gradually make them dependent. It is the responsibility of the teacher to avoid intimate minutes. Pedosexual activity may arise between a man teacher and a girl pupil, the most common combination. An unprepared and surprised girl may have significant trauma, while her energetic and flirtatious classmate may instead be excited and can perceive the situation as a win and the reason for the strengthening of self-esteem. One can experience the trauma of having been outrageously abused and tarnished, the second will be grateful for the initiation by the teacher of her dreams. Even the enthusiastic one may perceive other types of trauma in the future (2nd-5th, especially 6 to 8 type - see previous chapter).

If the sexual abuse of a child is done by an unknown perpetrator, trauma can be quite serious. For a one-time abuse (quite common in the case of pubescent boys) trauma is usually not as devastating as in the case of long-term abuse, for example regarding child prostitution. Since this is a stranger, the child does not experience feelings of betrayal, but it can turn more aware of the abuse of situation, of her immaturity and carelessness, and lack of love.

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B. Age difference between the two

It is questionable whether the relationship between fourteen years old girl and and fifteen years old boy, but also for example among thirteen y/o girl and seventeen y/o boy, can be described as pedosexual activity. In my opinion definitely not. However, thanks to legislation we are talking about the crime of sexual abuse of a child. Since we take the issue seriously and in terms of children's sexuality experts, we will not describe here paradoxical situations and instead we will focus on the actual research.

As pedosexual activity we should consider sex between prepubertal child and adult. Horny majority oriented adult having sex with fourteen y/o developed girl does not make pedosexual activity although he fulfils a criminal offense of child. When an individual is physically similar to an adult, it does not make sense in terms of sexology to sort her among children. In short, there are children (from the legal point of view) and children (from a biological point of view). The so-called hebephiles focused on older pubescent girls are in this respect wrongly ranked among pedophiles. Both general and professional public is then just confused.

Reviewing the issue of this determining factor (age) in detail, we will first mention the age of the child, in the second row the age of the adult, then their relative age difference. You could say that the older is the child, it is more mature and prepared for sexual life due to individual psychological development. Only in the so-called first puberty (4 to 7 years, most around 5 to 6) she is more sensitive to erotic influences and receives them often with more interest and somehow naturally. Traumatization in this age group may be in some children somewhat milder than in any other time in life. With the emerging puberty, the individual is sexually more active, she usually begins to masturbate and fantasize about a relationship. Sexual activity at this age need not be perceived traumatically. Much will depend on other factors.

Age greatly affects the appearance of body of the adult, his charm and sex appeal. When the pedosexual is older it not only increases the generational difference between him as abuser and the child as victim, but also the adult body is less and less attractive. An old man is more disgusting compared to twenty years old man. This can also cooperate in the ongoing pedosexual activity. "If I have to do it, let it's someone I do prefer, someone young and beautiful than old, wizened, hunched and smelly."

The age difference of around 5 years makes the relationship not a pedosexual activity. Pedosexual 10 years older can be seen by pubescents quite positively as an older friend or mature sexual partner. The age difference of about 15 to 35 years - because of the similarities with the age of their parents – can create an impression of abuse by a parent or his friend. The age difference of more than 30 years is rather incomprehensible and hard to grasp for the child. If the adult is still attractive and in a good condition, a child can still fall into romantic love with him. This situation is undoubtedly very rare. With increasing age of the pedosexual, any intimate situation with him is more disgusting and repulsive. Perhaps the only positive characteristic for senile old men is that they cannot brutally penetrate by their penis. However, their age-smelling body can traumatize anybody.

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Traumatization by pedosexual activities - Factors

Příspěvekod Plyšáček » 7.7.2017 16:27:26

C. Spatial and temporal conditions

We will now mention factors of space and time. The overall impression of sexual abuse or generally of pedosexual activity is highly influenced by the environment. We can easily imagine the difference between making love in a in a haystack, at the edge of a sewer ditch, on an altar in church or in a fluffy bed of a chateau suite. Not only coarse treatment, but also simple and dirty environment would increase the level of traumatization. An exception would only come in the case if the child really wanted sexual activity at such conditions. Otherwise harsh place, unacceptable temperature, uncomfortable background, noise, scary sounds and sensations in general, darkness, smell - all this only make the child's feelings worse.

The spatial conditions can include also circumstances of the pedosexual activity. Do the two meet each other voluntarily, do their close neighbourhood know about them or is their relationship secret? Do the two meet in a comfortable apartment or must they hide in public toilets? Do they have an entire romantic afternoon or just a few minutes during a school break? Do they have a clean blanket available or do they have to lay on a coat on ground? May they make sounds or must they keep quiet? Is there a danger that an uninvited observer will enter their area, and do they have an opportunity to cleanse or rinse themselves after sex?

Regarding time factors, there is a general rule that stronger traumatisation appears after repeated and long lasting sexual attack. The longer lasts an unwanted sexual activity, the more the victim suffers. The more often and for a longer period the abuse continues, the worse for the victim. If we were to think about the question of the day time of the attack, we would probably agree that evening and night time are the most contributing to traumatisation. Immediately after the abuse the child can experience intense first type of traumatisation (see previous chapter) and she must go to sleep severely excited and with a heavy head. Nightmares will naturally follow in many cases.

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D. Manipulation, degree of freedom and pressure

The more negative is this factor for victim feeling, the stronger the traumatization of type 2 (traumatization due to manipulation and subsequent silencing) will appear later. An amateur as well as an unexperienced professional will tell you that every pedesexual activity is heavily traumatic for a child, always unwanted and painful, that the child is always heavily manipulated, bribed, threatened or brutally raped. Experienced experts with knowledge of the problem, including experienced abusers, will show you in a discreet way that many cases of sexual abuse take place with the child's consent, at her wishes and with her full cooperation. For completeness, I mention that even such circumstances are unacceptable and cannot be taken as an argument for the defence of pedesexual activity. Just to make it clear in the first place that in some cases the freedom of the so-called "victim" may be complete, the manipulation by the abuser is minimal with no pressure. If a child goes to sex entirely by her own will and joyfully with love for an adult partner, manipulation is not reflected in the resulting psychological state of the child.

However, since in most cases it is necessary to mention the necessity of confidentiality, the existence of taboos, the risks of any revelation, the victim is in the majority of cases partially stressed and traumatized by the need for "encoding" and by the way of emotional pressure. If such manipulation techniques are performed by a man with knowledge of child psychology, he can give the child a gentle and delicate information and hence she does not experience such a trauma as if she was shocked by the story of a primitive assailant about police maneuvers, murdered parents and so on.

More intense traumatization can occur if the adult uses moral judgments in the verbal description of the activity, if he is blaming the child, if he denounces sexual activities with vulgar expressions, and if he speaks of sex as something low. The negative consequences of a common experience can be alleviated by the assurance that there was nothing wrong, immoral, that the child is not spoiled and that the activity has been motivated by love for the child. If the child's reactions shows that there is an immediate traumatization (type 1) and that she perceives hierself as a victim, the man should apologize for the mischief.

The greatest trauma will appear in children who have been subjected to brutal treatment during pedosexual activities and who have been raped in the true sense. Individuals who have been subjected to sexual abuse can then permanently feel link between sex and physical violence and they can suffer from sexual disorders, dysfunctions or develop pathological behaviours of a variety of types. They may even become abusers in the future, although probably not at the extent reported by various superficial surveys.

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E. Degree of psychosexual maturity and sexual activities of child

A key factor that partially defines the way a child experiences pedosexual activity and the extent of her subsequent traumatization is undoubtedly her age and significantly related degree of her psychosexual maturity. We can record immense differences in the development of individual children. One can master masturbation techniques at the top level at the age of five, while others can only consider "it" as a tool for urinating at the age of ten. If a small nymph jumps up on her beloved trainer and she begins spontaneously writhing on him, she will not be traumatized as if another trainer will masturbate a shy introvert boy of the age of twelve years on the podium in the sight of his peers. I provide extreme situations to make it clear that one abuse is not like another abuse.

Children in pre-school age often make various experiments with their sexual organs, they together play so-called doctor games, many, especially girls, masturbate at this age. Sometimes they are dangerous to themselves as they provoke and cause erotically tinted situations. It depends on a reasonable discretion and self-control of an adult to be able to define acceptable and "healthy" borders. Although a child would welcome many of the activities and experiments and would experience them naturally and without negative consequences, secondary traumatization could follow in the future. In short, the child does not know what she is going to do, and what consequences the activity can have. Therefore, she also fails to give so-called informed consent to sexual activity.

Children coming into puberty begin to devote more attention to their body and sexual expressions and appetence. Those who did not masturbate too much often find this emotionally satisfying activity at random, those who have already known it, are beginning to fully indulge it under the tide of their hormones. Many are starting to date and try mild sexual practices with their peers. If they become acquainted with an older partner, there is a risk of breaking the law or running inappropriate practices for which the pubescent is not yet mature. Then there are traumatizations of different types. It is recommended to move carefully, step by step, alongside a tolerant and loving peer.

Some adolescents, especially girls, may desire an intense relationship and a thorough initiation into sexual practices. Girls are then looking for an experienced male - a proper "alpha male". Sometimes it will happen, sometimes they can be disappointed. In the case of girls in advanced stages of puberty, it is a mature sexuality, and it does not make sense to put this among pedosexual activities. For young boys we have some females here who like to devote themselves to these bunnies and their inexperienced limbs. The difference between these two combinations can be found, in particular, in a whole-society perspective and evaluation. While an elderly man with puberty girl is a pedophile, a rapist and a dirty pig, a female initiating young man can be seen as an attentive teacher who sacrifices herself to tease a youngster (please note the exaggeration).

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Traumatization by pedosexual activities - Factors

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F. Selection of sexual activities

Another very important factor influencing the degree and type of trauma of a child involved in pedosexual activities is the kind of sexual practices the child is exposed to. Certainly she will keep different impressions from a gentle touching on her thighs than from torture or penetration by a horse vibrator. Logically, a general rule of correlation applies: the more violent, coarser and harsher the practice, the stronger the trauma for the child .

Many so-called sexual practices belong to the field of child sexuality. Children themselves touch their sexual organs, some masturbate. They show each other in various ways, touch themselves and fool around. They tickle, "torture", clap on buttocks for fun, or even kiss each other. Older-school-age couples in love can slowly begin to practice necking, petting, learn passionate kissing using tongues or even oral practices. If a sexual assault occurs and the child will be exposed to these "soft" practices, it may not be as traumatic as in the case of rape and adult vaginal or anal penetration.

A child can be in love with her adult "sexual partner". There are abundant cases when a little boy is in love with an adult woman. However, there are hopefully not many pedosexual activities between boys and women. There are not many cases when a little boy is in love with a big boy or a man. Rather, many homosexual pedophiles (BL) just imagine that. Homo-pedo-sexual activities will be much more complicated, especially for boys who are not homosexual. The occurrence of sex between a girl and a woman is probably also relatively sparse. But there are such. This is evidenced by many perverse, often arranged, child porn videos. We're left with the most common combination: a little girl with a man.

Such a little girl, she can so romantically and completely fall in love, you would stare... Some pedosexual activities can be pleasant for her. Some girls may give their first impetus. Or they may give a consent for that. Yet it can mean a sexual abuse of the child. Only the trauma (especially of the first type) will not be as strong as when dealing with an unloved or unknown abuser, or when adult sexual activities are practiced.

Exposure of the child's genitalia. More often in girls than in boys, we encounter some subconscious inner desire to expose their own genitalia - in popular terms - to show a pussy. It's unbelievable what girls can show off with the help of modern technology, especially webcams. In most cases, this is definitely not the case of "poor maneuvered and forced victims". And it's not just the behaviour in front of computer. They have always liked to show themselves in reality, among peers or for their dear ones, they almost impose themselves, they are opening the pussy, sometimes masturbating. The indirect internet contact, however, directly appeals to meet this inner need, the degree of shame being lower in this type of communication. This, of course, includes only a minor subset of the total number of girls. Most do not show up like this, and many would not even do it if they had the opportunity. Everything is individual. I mention this as an illustrative example of the fact that many sexual activities are natural to children and they have a tendency towards them. The boys can show up their dicks, often in an erected state. It is also a kind of inner desire for them and looking for new unexpected and exciting experiences. Exposure of one's own genitals can be quite satisfying and exciting for the child. The more shy ones when forced to do so would have a strong trauma.

Fondling, touching, soft masturbation, non-invasive kissing. These soft sexual practices correspond to children's nature, children sometimes perform them joyfully and spontaneously among themselves, they are obvious manifestations of child sexuality, they reflect a healthy psychosexual development of the child. If a girl is involved with an adult on her own initiative and is in love, she may not experience traumatisation (type 1). She can even enjoy those practices and experience sexual arousal or even climax and satisfaction. If, however, she is forced into these noninvasive sexual practices, or perhaps seduced by a person whom she does not love, she can experience trauma comparable to that of a raped adult woman.

Rough masturbation, oral sex, adult genital molestation. These less natural practices of a more invasive type can cause deeper wounds on the soul. If a child who has never been theoretically acquainted with the practice is involved in fellatio or cunnilingus, she is likely to be very shocked by the idea itself. That intended for pissing, in the mouth? Madness. It is possible that there will be excitement or even climax. But still, the child will probably be quite stressed and traumatized. If she were forced by the adult to stimulate his penis by her hands or her mouth, the trauma would most likely be enormous. An unknown big disgusting smelling penis in the mouth is a real hell for a child. We will express our view on an eventual encounter with ejaculation while discussing the following factor.

Forcing child to vaginal or anal coitus, HC and BDSM. These most hard and most rough adult sexual activities and ways will remain permanent wounds on the soul of every child, perhaps also on her body. These really disgusting and brutal acts are most often performed by non-pedophiles that do not feel love and tenderness to the child, who are often mentally ill or flat and who have the body of child as a substitute sexual object. Simply as "another available warm wet hole". I would punish such abusers exceptionally harshly. After the act, most types of traumatisation will appear in the victim, mainly 1.-3., really not 4. (traumatisation by absence of beloved abuser).

We could certainly go through lists of other lists of conceivable and imaginable sexual practices. Particularly at present, humankind is extremely creative and unbridled in this. But I hope it was enough to give an example. At first glance, it is clear that this factor plays an absolutely crucial role in the effect on the child that a pedosexual activity has. Not all activities are alike, some practices differ from other "practices".

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G. Physical manifestations and behaviour of abuser

As a special factor influencing the overall traumatization of the child, we will present here the physical manifestations with which the child encounters during pedosexual activity, as well as the various ways of approach and behaviour of the adult. Just in short, we will outline behaviour respectful to the personality of the child. On the contrary, we will mention approaches and expressions which are very insensitive, unscrupulous and strongly traumatic.

A sensitive approach is characterized by the utmost respect, sensitivity and deep empathy towards the child, an effort to meet her wishes and to respect her will. A significant "advantage" exists for experienced educators, child psychologists and pediatricians, leaders of interest groups, as well as pedophiles who understand the child's soul and usually use intelligent and non-invasive methods of manipulation. In the "ideal" case, these adults are directly forced into pedosexual activities by their "victims". They should be aware that "even if a child wants IT much" , it is still a sexual "abuse" of a child.

On the contrary, insensitive and traumatizing approach is characterized by violent acts, aggressive manipulation, extortion, and threats. We have written more about it at point D (factor Manipulation, degree of freedom and degree of coercion). The more crude and primitive is the abuser, the lower the whole act is and the resulting overall impression deeper and the more traumatic is the impact on the child.

We will stop at physical manifestations that occur with both actors during pedosexual activity . When making love, the bodies behave a little differently than in normal working. The child may be surprised and frightened by her own feelings and unusual features of her body.

In boys, there is an erection that they of course know but usually connected with positive experiences. They can have erection while it is not wanted. They feel helpless, the inability to get rid of the erection can be frustrating. They are already shy for the nakedness itself, even more for the erection. Not everyone, of course, also here exists individuality in experience. In pubertal boys, the masturbation or felation may also lead to the first outbreak of semen. Those uninformed can be badly surprised - especially due to the circumstances in which this occurs.

Girl may also experience changes in her genitals, and may experience orgasm for the first time during masturbation or cunnilingus, giving her ambivalent feelings. On the one hand, man deal with her in an incomprehensible way, with an approach she has not yet encountered and about which she had no idea. She can feel very uncomfortable, and she can be shocked and literally stiff, without any ability to resist. On the other hand, she can feel new, sentient bodily feelings they have not yet felt. And now how can the not mature child psyche process it... In the case of deeper orgasms, she is even more surprised. After such an act, traumatization can also occur by the feeling that she did not have own personal control over her body and feelings[/color]. Similarly to that what happens with older children if they cannot control the excretion need.

Regarding the physical manifestations of the adult they are usually an aggravating factor. Sweat, flushing in the face and in the genital area, wetting of the vagina or penile erection, deep and audible breathing, sighing, healing, roaring, farts, salivation, etc. have terribly repulsive effect on the little, pure and gentle child. The worse phenomenon is sperm itself. If this is only possible, the child should be isolated from that. Watching ejaculation, splashing sperm on the body, into the face or in the mouth, or in the little girl vagina, is something so disgusting and perverse that the trauma will probably be extremely intense. Its odor, especially its consistency resembling the secretions of the nose, and its unpleasant stickyness, are painfully pressed in the child's memory. Even the most courageous and tough children who bravely start felation (for example, those who are involved in it from birth) are mostly repelled and their faces show resentment and extreme disgust when they get a dose into their mouths (see the findings of court experts after seeing some CP documents). In fact, few women accept this as delicious "vitamins".

Many degenerated deviates are happy with a variety of disgusting actions. However, even with the utmost cultivation and preservation of decency and purity, childhood and adult physicality are quite different, and in the intimate contact of these two children is the one who loses or suffers from the difference.

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H. Whole society climate

The ultimate factor here, which significantly affects the traumatization of a child, is the overall climate in the society - the surrounding people with their attitudes to sexual abuse of children and related topics, with their morality and standards. The way of seeing of the world by society in which pedosexual activities take place significantly influences the formation of the intimate relationship between the pedosexual and the child. The society view fundamentally determines the degree of secondary traumatization of the child (type 6-8) in case of revelation of the relationship. What is somewhere regarded as a norm and natural behaviour, is elsewhere severely condemned and punished. We can see the relativeness of everything, but we must respect local tradition and morality. We can express this social problem elsewhere and later. And in other topics. I find a high competence in this issue especially in our member Dejan.

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Following the chapter mapping 8 types of traumatisation, we now finish the chapters devoted to 8 factors that significantly influence the degree of trauma. I open a free discussion on the issue.

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