Traumatization by pedosexual activities
from the perspective of children sexology
The topic is extremely interesting, but also controversial, delicate and extremely demanding. If someone starts its description, he should have an excellent knowledge of sociology as well as the issue of sexual abuse (CSA) and children sexuality. Especially I will try to make a detailed classification of types (categories) of traumatization. The topic will also mention the differences in the ways of CSA that depend not only on the social climate, but mainly on the psychosexual nature of the child, on the approach of the pedosexual, and their relationship. Mention the right use of the term pedosexual which is not a synonym to pedophile. Whilest pedophile is an individual attracted by preteen children, pedosexual is every adult practising sexual activities with children. See more in the New terminology (till now in Czech only).
To start, I will mention two very different cases. Let even dull people will recognize the difference between diverse abuse types. Both fictional cases will include a six years old girl because I want to show the huge difference in the approach to the victim only.
In the first story, this six years old girl is raped every day in a cold underground cellar by brutal majority oriented men. They behave to the victim as to a sex toy, they cum into her mouth, they bind her, burn her body by a hot wax, one by one penetrate into her tattered bleeding vagina. After a satanic service they will let her alone in the darkness, cold and dirtiness.
In the second story, we met a first grade girl fallen in love with their twenty years old pedophilic oriented neighbour. They know each other three years, the men fondly plays often with the girl, she keeps staring at him in amazement. One day they remain at home alone. The girl starts to harass, she sits astride on his lap, giving him tender kisses, briefly touching his crotch. He says her that such behaviour is unacceptable and that people would become angry. She replies that she knows it well but gives a damn and once she wants to marry him. Pedophile surrenders to the given situation and let the girl rubbing of the penis through clothes. After a while they both culminate in orgasm and thanks to each other while hugging. They know this things are their secret and the girl herself thinks about another opportunity to meet alone.
Although the two stories can look completely unrealistic, they reflect real cases. If you do not believe the first, you know little about human cruelty. If you do not believe the second you do not know anything about rich child sexuality. Both the first and the second stories were description of child sexual abuse (CSA) but the relationships between the adult and child and probable future traumatization are greatly different.
The final traumatization of the child primarily depends on the personality of the abuser, on their relationship, on the type of sexual activity and the conditions of the contact. Only secondarily it depends on the approach of the surrounding society.
Having this knowledge, let us try to classify traumatization of a child by CSA into several categories:
1. Immediate traumatization after the CSA action
2. Traumatization caused by subsequent psychical manipulation and silencing
3. Delayed traumatization after understanding of the importance of the action that happened
4. Traumatization caused by absence of the beloved abuser
5. Traumatization caused by change of the relationship with the abuser
6. Secondary traumatization caused by the reaction of other people after the conferral or disclosure
7. Secondary traumatization after becoming familiar with the opinions and attitudes of the society towards pedosexual activities
8. Secondary traumatization after change of personal philosophy of life
This classification is not complete and final. But it suggests the complexity and complicated nature of the phenomenon already after the first reading. Multidimensional nature of the human psyche, the unpredictability of individual life stories and people interactions together with incredible differences in the quality and level of expression of sexuality of the participating persons and the evaluators all interestingly influence or even aggravate each case.
This topic is worth to receive much more attention.
We will discuss the following plush chapters:
• Analysis of individual types of child traumatization caused by pedosexual activities
• Factors determining and influencing the level of traumatization of the child caused by pedosexual activities
• Targeted reduction of child traumatization involved in pedosexual activities
• Types of child traumatization depending on the type of pedosexual activity
We hope that Dejan will provide chapters or thematic serials such as Comparative study of approach of human cultures to the child sexuality and to pedosexual activities that should reflect mainly the level of traumatization of children or Proposal for political and paradigmatic changes in society aimed at reducing traumatization of potential CSA victims.
link and source: detskechoroby.rodinka.sk
Czech original: Traumatizace z pedosexuálních aktivit